If your partner/lover knows you are trans and he or she is serious then there is no acceptance time period to come to terms it's 2015 ditch those negative people you'll be happier and healthier for it. If someone knows you are a transsexual (transgender woman) then they know. There, is no splitting of hairs or sprinking the "subject" with frankensence and mur or dancing in the full moon light of the acceptance-uncloseting ritual. If they are ashamed and afraid of some unknowable-fringe future event then that is their own particular world.
There is no absolute do it my way or the highway, but being in the closet for an extended time period is an excuse in the 21st century. Yes it's dangerous but more so for the transwoman than for the person who claims to be their soulmate. If a man doesn't want people to know he engages in relationships with transwomen then she needs to cut him loose. There is too much data and social media to demonstrate people can live fruitful full lives inspite of being in constant physical danger. In free societies there should be virtually no excuse for being in the closet for 5, 10, 15, 20 years.
Being in the closet is an excuse, I know I was in the closet before I came out as trans. It wasn't easy coming out but society sets us up to conform. They need to face their fears, from what I hear you and some other men have a support group, how friggin cool is that?
Fear is a powerful abstract. I do not have omnipotent clarifying answers but since I've started my transition some 6 years ago I've come to love myself more and more each day. LIfe is prescious and finite. As I age I know some day I will not wake up one day (hopefully my expiration is by natural causes), but whether by the former method or an untimely demise I am working on living my life to the fullest. The mistakes and wrongs I have committed are like some horrible distant memory in the past. So when I hear talk of men being on the down low I am reminded about things in the past, in that fear, in that self-hate and in that negative-self talk, these issues are things I try to leave in the past (no one is perfect).
If a man claims to want to be with me and needs time to come to terms, what is an acceptable time period? I may be hit by a bus the next day or perish during a sky diving mishap. So I don't want to be brash or crude but if these men want to be happy with themselves then these men should live their life. You basically said that during this and the last vid, and in my humble opinion you hit the nail on the head as usual.
I have plans to someday "soon" skydive. So you closeted fearfull men out there looking for someone you need to step up as time wait's for no man or woman for that matter.
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